18. Is Your Destiny Inevitable or an Excuse?  

Posted by Dr. Dheena Sadik in , , , ,

Wherever in the globe you maybe seated right now, you probably heard “it wasn’t meant to be” at least once in your lifetime. If this is 100% true, aren’t we victims to mental captivity with very little space to explore the infinite possibilities of our talents, interests and creativity?

What exactly is destiny (aka Fate, Karma, Kismet)? If it was “destined” an individual was “meant” to become an engineer someday, does this mean he would inevitably choose that particular avenue regardless how much effort he applies during his academic phase? Does a child born in the slums have to permit her "destiny" to force her to remain in that environment forever instead of trying hard to seek a more comfortable life? It’s ironic how we give ourselves a pat on the back when we succeed, while we conveniently label failures as an effect of Kismet. How much authority do you in reality, have over this unpredictable journey we call life? If all life’s events were already pre-planned doesn’t that make us nothing less than programmed robots with hearts living aimlessly without emotional liberty? This constant Tug-of War between our goals and Fate throws us into a dilemma compelling us to make a diligent decision. Do you choose to simply lie back in slumber and wait for Karma push your buttons or would you rather take responsibility of your life and use that phenomenal brain to make you noteworthy?

All classic men and women of time, without a shadow of doubt, faced challenges chaperoned with antagonism and enmity. The distinction in their struggle is their admirable courage against permitting anyone to trample their dreams and passion. They imagined beyond what they heard and chose to dye actively trying rather than keep living passively without finding their the avenues to their goals. The world would not be advanced and developed as it is today if all those great icons didn’t strive to make a difference. They didn’t wait for destiny to sweep them off their feet, rather they paved their pathway perspiring.

Step out of the bubble of convention and be original. You are more capable than you realize. The world needs your committed dedication. All your failures and success, whether you accept it or not, contribute to our future beyond your imagination. We were all born with at least one unique talent. It’s your responsibility to discover and mould it to a work of art. Don’t give destiny as an excuse for lethargy. Instead, make your existence significant. To those of you who believe in God, simply ask yourself one question, “would God be pleased with me if I took his blessings (your talents) for granted?”.

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Agreed! Far too many times people allow themselves to be divided from their plans and dreams by modern myths derived from ancient philosophy designed to help the downtrodden cope with their lot. The truth sets us all free... we are the architects of our lives. And if one has a god, why is it they who must be slave to one's failures? And not the successes?

May 21, 2009 at 6:43 PM

definitely, this is how most should try and see life as, but sometimes its not in their mental capacity. oppression does not allow the brilliance of an individual :)

May 22, 2009 at 10:46 PM

Zian- Agreed. Our fate is in our hands more than we realize and accept.

Dirk- Oppression is simply a dictator over self evolution. The brilliance can only get conspicuous if we defeat the resistance, which is bound to exist on the voyage.

May 24, 2009 at 2:03 PM

Dr. Dina, I love your blog, because it's just RT! I can't say anymore than that!

July 7, 2009 at 4:08 AM

Thank You!

July 7, 2009 at 4:42 AM

I don't believe in "destiny". How could I? It would prevent me from changing, from learning, from growing, not to mention free choice. I also don't think there is anything called, "failure". Anything that would be called that by some, to me, is a handle that when pulled, opens up doors to more understanding of self and others.

July 8, 2009 at 12:20 PM

Thank You Martie. Very intriguing confession! I agree there is no failures and mistakes, Only lessons in Life to be learnt as we keep traveling this journey. Its totally our mind set that determines the outcome of our encounters.

July 8, 2009 at 12:33 PM

This is a massive subject but the one statement that grabbed my attention is “would God be pleased with me if I took his blessings (your talents) for granted?”.
I'm sorry but in my opinion God is unconditional he doesn't have a BIG stick he just LOVES UNCONDITIONALLY, we are given blessings and gifts but we decide what to do with them.
We can live ... our life feeling separate from life or we can open our heart and feel connected to life.
We can live our life listening to negativity, fear, anger or listen to our heart and live our life with love.

July 8, 2009 at 12:41 PM

Shaun- Thank You for the fruitful comment. Love your thought! Indeed I agree its a choice to make for Us. We are such advanced creatures and sadly too many individuals tend to under-estimate their capabilities and find destiny as the most convenient excuse. My Q to many of them are- If God had already pre-planned every single aspect of your Life, from cradle to grave, then why are you here? Might as well have gone to Heaven right away with this phase on Earth. The Beauty is even with Faith/ Religion God said" Let their be no compulsion". After having that extraordinary degree of Freedom even with Faith how is it remotely possible to live the rest of your life without the authority of making choices?

July 8, 2009 at 12:44 PM

I believe that your destiny is totally in your control, whether you like it or not and whether you believe this or not, does not matter.

The process, as it's been told, is simple: Thoughts become words; words become actions; actions become habits; habits determine your destiny.

It has always and will always begin with thoughts....

To remove the human element from this equation I will offer this reasoning; does every grape on a vine become a great wine?

Of course not. However if it were grown in the vineyard of a great winery it's chances are better.

With the human in this equation I offer this; does every grape grower/farmer make great wine?

Only if he thinks he can 1st. That thought will turn into a belief which causes him to take actions, which lead to the practice of making great wine.

He certainly can simply make grape juice or sell the grapes or let them dry and have raisins for a lifetime. The choice is his/her own. The path to your destiny awaits your decision...and then your actions will bring you closer... or further from the destiny you "say" you want.

Enjoy your journey either way; this indeed is the path to a journey well traveled.~In my humble opinion.

Lastly, I would rather live as if my destiny is totally under my control and find out later that it was not; rather than live as though it is not, then find out later that it was.

That to me is the essence of why God/Universe has given us this power to choose.

July 8, 2009 at 1:05 PM

Phillip- Brilliant perspective! The highlight being- "I would rather live as if my destiny is totally under my control and find out later that it was not; rather than live as though it is not, then find out later that it was." All I can say is that I am truly blessed to have such individuals in my Life. Its not often one... Read More comes across such generous souls who unconditionally share all they have learned throughout their voyage and possess. Couldn't agree more. Why else are we here? God gave us a brain in our skulls and feet in our shoes to figure it out and take ourselves where we choose to be. We would simply be puppets if we had no free will. Thank You loads. May you get even better than your BEST self!

July 8, 2009 at 2:52 PM

Great Dina and so in tune with a conversation I was having with a work colleague yesterday.

I firmly believe that I am where I am in life because of my actions or rather inaction over the past years, not because it was written in the stars.

If I choose to continue doing what I am doing, nothing changes so it is up to me to change the course or direction of my life.

It will not change just because I simple wish for it to happen.

I am where I am because I believed, up until recently, it was where I was meant to be, as soon as I shifted that thought process, it was as if I had place a large rock in the river of life and suddenly I had change the course of that river entirely.

I know that I am more and will be more!

Thank you and with your permission I would very much like to share this with my with friend and colleague as I believe he would benefit from it.

Blessings to you Dina,

July 8, 2009 at 4:10 PM

Denise- Agreed! I simply say 1+1=2. It will never be anything >2 or <2 unless we change the variables.Likewise in life, unless we change the entities we keep juggling with, we would always end up getting the same results. How can there be change/ Improvement if we don't make any effort in creating it?

Yes, I can relate to the liberation on realizing the power of free will. We do possess the reigns of our Life more than the majority assumed.

You are most welcome, Yes, You may by all means share this with your friends. We are but here for a short span of life. Lets Love, share and be loved. Peace and Blessings.

July 8, 2009 at 4:13 PM

This is a great post and I love reading the conversation here that grew out of it.

Phillip, this was excellent: "I would rather live as if my destiny is totally under my control and find out later that it was not; rather than live as though it is not, then find out later that it was."

July 8, 2009 at 4:19 PM

well Dina i think destiny is just a part of our lives .... if anybody believes in destiny and if he don't go for hard work or try to catch his dreams then destiny will never help them... its like destiny + hard work = dream or reality what ever u can say !!! i think instead of believing in destiny totally we should believe in ourselves ... our ... Read More confident ... our own talent ... and if u everyday sharp your talent and your self confidence then definitely destiny will also help u for forever .... if u don't have your skills then may be in very beginning destiny will help u for success but at last u will loose your that success ... if u don't know how to carry that .... so its better i can say destiny + hard work = reality or dream:)

July 11, 2009 at 4:30 PM

Vicki- Interesting Equation-

Destiny + hard work = reality or dream.

Thank You!

July 11, 2009 at 4:43 PM

Destiny. A term over used by many & is treated as in some ways the terminology sets some magic that will come to rescue folks to the unexpected.

As I see life, it does not take you from one point to set you settle on another. It is not about walking one straight line as life is very much like going about in a cycle like wheel in exploration. I go East & I arrive at West. I keep on walking thinking I have a certain destination yet I ended up elsewhere from my planned destination. I thought wanted to be a journalist but being an artist is what I love most. I used dream of preaching like priests yet I hang on to being secular; follow no doctrines & embracing no religions. I used to think I'll take revenge on all those who did me wrong, yet hatred finds no space in my life. I do not see I am destined to be this or that. I AM destiny, a destiny with purpose to explore every possibility I choose to explore and journey all adventures I am pleased to travel in this mortal existence.

July 11, 2009 at 4:50 PM

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