Over diverse ages
Much has grown,
Earth and her children
Graciously evolve;
Majestic Mammoths
Roamed this Kingdom,
Peacefully handed over
Reigns to our generation;
Fire rose to be hot
Ice chose to be cold,
Water flexibly dances
Rocks simply froze;
As we swirl and glide
Towards mature elegance,
Some of our members
Favor not transformation;
They tighten their fists
And grip their jaws,
Stagnation encroaching
O’ their glow stunting!
They choose to resist
Everything persists,
Fire rose to be hot
Ice chose to be cold.
—Dr. Dheena Sadik © 2010
The camouflaged artful strands of pain deeply woven betwixt Love and Joy have its inexplicable unfathomable beautiful pleasure. When pain is remedy; the elixir that fulfills every unsatisfied crypt and space within the soul, heart and mind, which no other emotional gratification can quench. The affliction that acknowledges you the very existence of your harmonious North when you feel South, that exotic East when you precisely feel West.
The throb that makes me weep in silent joy embedded in solitude, the prick that makes your lips smile within your heart when you listen to a song of no relevance to your past. The aching which makes you embrace your Yin-Yang and the tenderness which rejects reason and excuses, grabbing your sparkling passions with heart chambers wide open. That flame which unlocks caves in your mind swimming in loneliness. That warm tingle which made you blush at the cold evening rain. When life seems to drown in monotony, that aching torch that insidiously seeped inside out to ignite a candle in the darkness of your hidden wounds to light. The vibes enabling you to feel more tangible than angels when you weep and embrace your bleeding heart. For the quintessence of the spectra of feelings perceived by souls, is nothing less holy than the divinity of pain. The companion who chaperons desire, love, passion, lust and all other heart awakening sensations that blossom tranquility with a burning zest within; allowing the youth hibernating within us to remain playfully serene when all else withers and grays.
Cherished oh beloved PAIN, thou art my zenith of blessings from heaven. My precious companion of every breathe and tear, deeper than profane love and farther than the apparent perishable revolving world. When all else tastes bland and my systems adopts immunity, its YOU sacred nectar that immortally rekindled the wings within this hibernating newborn, unfolding me to fly boundlessly in charismatic spirals within every nuclei of energy I am, beyond the cosmos.
After centuries of brainstorming, Science finally enabled possible the tangible rendezvous between man and the Moon; Interestingly, Revered Spirituality, enabled the possibility of the enigmatic rendezvous between man and the Creator of the Moon since the first Breathe of Mankind. Implanted deep within the heart of our Soul, the divine compass occupies unfathomable formulas certifying the unquenchable thirst to return to our Homeland.
Life undoubtedly takes us through fluctuations of different levels. However, its within the power of your choices and strength, every time you fall, to pick your Self up! When you synthesize this habit, you will find your Self at a higher energy level at every phase's friction. When you turn to your higher Self for support, you continuously get toned with lessons from every experience and no harsh challenge can ever defeat you!
The most convenient and predictable routes in life are usually the most stagnating programmed pathways. What makes the ultimate difference in outstanding individuals of all time, is the extend they are willing to take risks, to explore that extra mile of unknown possibilities, which may turn out either way. Those willing to accommodate variant outcomes of life that may ramify from anything into everything.
" Patience, patiENCE, PATIENCE!!! "
Too often we hear the significance of patience, but rarely told the right dose of its quantity and quality. If there isn't a limit, does one remain patient till death do them part? Does it mean to remain silent at times when's opinion in 100% worthy and valid in an argument where their wisdom can't be comprehended?
Its sad how FAR some individuals can remain submissive indefinitely, hoping for change via patience. If he/ she constantly makes excuses for those who miss/ ill- treat them, this cascade is a camouflaged form of insidious suicide; and too often they realize not.
If a child was deprived of a basic education by his/ her parents how much patience can be expected? Should that child be patient till adulthood until its a tad awkward to dream of things a child or regular teenager would experience? So WHAT should such a bewildered child do assuming there was no national service to help? There are too many teenagers deprived of a tertiary education for various traditional reasons too.
How about womenfolk's freedom? Its flabbergasting how much male dominance prevails in our era. Sons are given multiple folds of freedom relative to sisters of the same age. How MUCH patience can/ should she synthesize until she gets married to another member of the similar mentality and society? So after being patient unlimited in her childhood, she now enters motherhood where she needs to manufacture an inexhaustible supply of this convenient excuse, abuse and oppression others label as patience? Some women, are patient ALL their life all the way to senility. Is this the sole purpose God blessed us with a phenomenal brain? To initiate nothing except a mute presence?
So is there an optimal dose to patience? What's next? Beyond? Any over-dose, even water causes toxicity to our system. So does that rule apply here as well? If you would dissect patience further, what does psychology, psychiatry, the law of attraction, philosophy, religion have got to say about its boundaries, depth and spectra?
True enough, there are times in life when one intellectually and sensibly needs to hold on for a suitable time or precise space via logic and reasoning. Reaping the harvest of certain seasons can only be attained at its specific time ( unless cultivated in a glass house of course, which isn't yet available on a global scale) . You can't expect an infant to run before crawling and walking obviously. However, how much is the limit? As much as God blesses the patient heart, I also believe He blessed us ALL with tools within our hearts, brains, minds and souls to help lift ourselves up when and where ever we fall. If you have been patient far too long, then it''s time to allow your courage to be your fuel to project you beyond that cliff of reasonable tolerance, the engine of our minds, to propel you forward to refine yourself rather than accommodating stagnation.
If you like to complain its time to stop this self-consumptive habit. Too often time is wasted complaining which could have been utilized in implementing constructive thoughts into action to solve your current crisis. Its normal to be dissatisfied on the rare, but dissipating your energy over-expressing these vexations is simply futile. Avoid finding comfort narrating your situation to a herd of individuals who are unable to comprehend you. Its usually mere entertainment for them to hear you story. With experience, you should learn the fact some are more effective listeners and mentors than others. Invest your time on the worthy and receptive souls.
Be grateful for all oppositions of the past, present and future. You would not be as strong as you are this moment if you didn’t HAVE to have to awaken the latent strength hibernating within your mind. Unless we are bombarded with challenges there would be no reason for us to dissect our minds to release a variety of attempts to squeeze out the BEST in You. The more you dig deeper to explore your capabilities, the greater magnitude and multitude of uniqueness you will discover.
At the heat of the moment we seldom realize how a particular conflict or disagreement can in reality help our growth. There are too many lessons to be learnt from the turbulence and viscosity that sail our path. As we keep constantly traveling this journey, the hurdles make us stronger physically, mentally and spiritually too. How can pinnacles of life be refined further unless they are tested? Isn’t it only reasonable they are examined as we keep progressing?
Do you think its UNFAIR some are born with a silver spoon with parents to support every step they DESIRE? While others are born with the GREATEST challenges at the expense of having to give up their ambitions ONLY because they can't AFFORD it despite having the potential it requires?
Take your time to believe that which you are conventionally expected to believe. We are not expected to make any mistakes, but are there any absolute mistakes in Life's lessons?
Nobody has the right to change and control your Unique characteristics. Don't let anyone hypnotize you into that which they wished you could be instead. There is a unique compass embedded deep within your characteristic DNA. No two individuals own the exact genetic constituents (except clones). Likewise, whatever you desire, your dreams, your goals, your passions, your ambitions- The way You feel is your very own feelings. Believing you can make it happen is the first step to this destination of eternal serenity that would blossom out of it. Even if it takes years to convince yourself you can make it happen-Grip that thought! Imagine all the possibilities your mind can breathe through and fly across the infinite horizons of all realms. That exotic oasis within you.
Never regret ANY choices you made beyond ALL oppositions. Your decisions were based on your experiences and you followed your instincts at that time which you believed was the Best. Whatever the consequences maybe its all part of the package of your cruise. At times we receive alternative incentives to that which our hearts initially desired; Our juvenile minds of the past may have quenched for substances our souls do not really need today for its growth. Hence, not getting what you wanted is NOT a failure. In reality you got what you NEEDED to work in synergism with your maturity, nourishing and hydrating your soul to a more refined and unique individual today, better than yesterday.
In reality you don't represent any herd or roots. You only represent YOUR mind. Don't get frustrated trying too hard to blend in when you stand inside out as a unique icon many will choose to follow. Remember, most of the GREATEST leaders and role models were initially eccentric until they were recognized for their originality. Free will is Beautiful.
Why do some individuals focus SO hard on blaming someone for every problem? Is there someone to blame ALWAYS for every complication in Life? Why not conserve and utilize this energy to find a solution instead! Isn't that WAY more sensible and less energy dissipated for futility?
Always take your time to trust acquaintances. It can only hurt to be disappointed via your own harmless assumptions.
There is NO Freedom without Your Independence of Self-Sustainability. Nothing realistically attainable is impossible to achieve. Impossible itself is saying "I'm-Possible".
In reality what is the size of a rose? Is it as gigantic it was to a bee on its petal as it blossomed, as small as you saw it across the street or simply the size when its enclosed in your palm? No two individuals perceive anything 100% alike. Our intuitions are based on our individual experiences as we mature everyday. Five is less than nine, but will always be greater than two. At times we compare scenarios and dilemmas in order to fuel us with resolutions. But is this always healthy? How much does relativity damage the freedom of exploring our originality?
Relativity of Generations- How fair is it to compare the economy, entertainment, comfort levels and convention of generations that span a good old three decades? There is no harm discussing the progress or decline of our planet; But isn't it fruitless to keep living in non-existent generation? Well, believe me such individuals DO exist! They live every single day disappointed with change, relative to their childhood. Like the seasons, change is inevitable. Its only a futile quest to try and keep the atmosphere as it was in 1979. How absurd is it for seniors to expect children to desire similar standards of living as they did decades ago? Its a very common and unfortunate scenario in my vicinity. Its nothing to do with religion and everything to do with holding onto traditions that are unquestionably decaying.
Relativity of Societal Classes- The thirst for power is undoubtedly insatiable. The Middle class are struggling to leap to the Upper class while the Poverty-stricken are dreaming of escalating to the Middle class. In life we consider 'better' a zone that is either higher or more comfortable to where we sit right now, although this maybe less agreeable to someone at a more contented level. There are some with an insatiable appetite to get richer, look better, obsessed with popularity and fame; This isn't a crime. No. In fact, self- evolution is the key to a more refined society. However, should there be an unconscious scale in our minds comparing ourselves to other individuals? As for other side of this tale, have you ever met anyone who is simply pleased with exactly who and what he/she is at any given point in time? You can try convincing them how much more potential they got reserved, and they would tell you they are simply grateful not to be living in the slums or starving in Africa!
Relativity of Religion- Makes You sigh doesn't it? Throughout the ages, there is little doubt how religion itself has been a major cause in emanating clashes within and amongst various societies. As much as our cyberspace era is accelerating networking, paradoxically the subject of adversity among religions would sadly last till Doom's Day. Apart from Inter-religion relativity how about Intra-religion Clashes? Its simply amazing how individuals have such strong clasps of estimation on levels of Faith. To the monotheists- Isn't it for the Almighty Himself to judge what lies in our hearts?
These are only a few of the major avenues in this pragmatic issue. Every single aspect of your life can be scaled to another Sensibly how worthy are all these measurements? To what degree is this inevitable analogy ruining the indulgence of our lives? Is it remotely possible for You to draw any conclusion without this element of comparison?
It's better to be temporarily single than be permanently in Love with someone who neither appreciate nor deserve You!
After I updated the above on Twitter I received an unbelievable response, some also via email. As much as some agreed there were others who misunderstood the depth of the point. Hence, I decided to give you an explanation it deserves.
Please note- When I write, its neither based on movies nor on stories I was narrated. Instead it is constructed purely on my experiences and observations in my vicinity. In this case, I speak on behalf of those individuals, mostly females, who are suffering in silence. Not necessarily abused physically; Rather on behalf of those who portray a pretty rosy serene picture to the world outside their reality.
There are too many women who sacrifice their happiness on behalf of their parents, husband and finally children. Its an unbelievable vicious cycle that only stops as she departs this world. A permanent life long sacrifice all in the name of Love? It simply can't be fair. It only leaves me baffled with the reality hidden behind that meticulously attempted smile they wear to their conventional society. What's even more alarming is the magnitude of hope these women have in store. They feel its one step forward to wait, not to realize it recoils two steps behind. They believe someday they may be appreciated for all their patience. Patience till WHEN? is my question.
I believe there comes a point, when you don't deserve any more mental agony, any more emotion handicap, when you should become more pragmatic and stop day dreaming of that day which has taken way too long already to arise. It may simply be that tone which cannot be molded to a more respectable version. When You are being mistreated over and over again- It simply SHOULD change. There are more women than you can ever imagine who live in a fantasy that someday life may evolve drastically for the better. Changes in personality requires time and effort. It never happens overnight in real world. You try your utmost to grow together until you deplete your strength. Beyond that it's simply futile. Like I mentioned in Post 43 ~ Love is an essential entity everyone needs till their last breathe, despite some too victimized via bitter experiences to admit this.
So let us hope that everyone would be true to their hearts and seek that which they deserve!
Every now and then, after planning to undertake a task, you were unexpectedly held back by some insidious friction.These maybe neglected chores, extra time spent online or a new comedy that magnetized your attention stealthily. How much do we let these friction demons abduct minutes and hours away from our precious schedules? What's even more crippling about this weakness is the fact we make such attractive excuses and pamper them!
The next time you and I set a goal, lets beat out those little inertia mischief-makers. Often they brush out the most active segment of the day. It's ironic how we frequently realize how much time was wasted on those recycle bin entities only after we drain out our peak energy for the day. Let's try to live more disciplined and have less regrets.
Never fear expressing your fruitful thoughts. You have everything to gain in finding the courage to articulate your brainchild. If you procrastinate this translation of thoughts into words you may enter a dangerous comfort zone in a mute solitary world of your own. Days, months and years would slip away until you would transform into a pile of treasured silent ideas and views trapped in an unexplored dysfunctional cave distant from your own delivery.
You are more substantial than you ever estimated. Voice your thought before time cripples the music within your exclusive mind. The world can't afford to lose you.
You are more substantial than you ever estimated. Voice your thought before time cripples the music within your exclusive mind. The world can't afford to lose you.
Dr. Dheena Sadik
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