Its better to share your thoughts and feelings, love just happens, don't plan for it and my advice DON'T fight it. Go with the flow, make the most of the precious gift, otherwise you will be left wondering what if... and becoming depressed, bitter and old. There's someone for everyone, just pray and see!

If we seek love "on the outside" in order to fulfill a personal loneliness or lack within, we enter relationships as "energy vampires."

The problem is when you don't find that person that you are supposed to find and that love's you the way you deserve. Or when you really like someone even though you know you'll never have a chance with him, because he simply does not love you back... It's a bit hard, but we just need to hang on and wait for something better!

Bhatti00- You have misunderstood the point behind this Post. It was on behalf of those suffering in Silence for a significant period all in the name of Love. True enough its never rosy 24/7; However, there is a practical limit to keep hoping forever.


Joe- Agreed. Sometimes, We need to look within ourselves as to what we deserve to figure out who/what/ where we need to look for on the exterior.

Anonymous- The Key is to recognize your reserves. Everyone is unique. Nobody can please everybody. But there are a few individuals if not for One that's looking for those qualities you possess; And that's what you should seek.

Dr. Dina when you state, Suffer in Silence, do you mean women that refuse to lift their voice and speak out?

The DiamondCoach- Yes, that's exactly what I meant. I have witnessed MANY women who are ambitious and got the potential to reach greater heights; However, their community mutes them from expressing there originality and passions. Its simply unbelievable. You speak to them in privacy and they would reveal their reality. Their dreams would only remain literal dreams. They have been warned time and again not to imagine "beyond" convention. Not to dare break that bubble fenced around them with over-protection. If they would even have an unusual opinion they are being frowned upon. Yes- I speak on behalf of them.

Nice post, I think it's targeting married women, or women in relationship where they're not emotionally appreciated. That's why you mentioned "mostly females".

May be the nature of women make them more likely to be "oppressed" and "emotionally unappreciated" more than a man in an established relationship where the woman need to be with that person for some reason, be it social, financial or even emotional. Still her decision.

On the other hand, from my experience, women are more likely to be the "player" in a relationship, which brings up another type of emotional exhaustion which is more like a "instant shock" and "trauma" other than patience in a relationship that's not working.

- Abdo (FB: Abdelrahman)

Abdo- Thank You. Interesting perspective. Well, I spoke on behalf on all the female victims, so honestly got no idea of the vice versa situation. Yes, I agree females are more inclined to have emotional fluctuations and higher expectations, specially seen in male dominant societies as there are points where its all or nothing and the all include all the warts in the package too.

I couldn't agree more! I would much rather be miserable as a single than miserable being married to the wrong man.

Kay- Agreed. Its indeed heart breaking to be someone and yet feel lonely at the same time!

I totally agree with you! PATRICIA EVANS books explain this phenomenon sooo well! If human beings knew what is LOVE and RESPECT and had the ability to BE and DO both, it would be paradise on earth! Nevertheless, somehow WE sense and know when we are NOT loved and respected ! WE must TRUST our instincts as Patricia tells us! Also Barbara de Angelis in her book: Are YOU the ONE for ME? reinforces the same ideas!!! If only WE loved and respected OURSELVES , that would be the start ! As Dr. Phil says: YOU teach others how to treat YOU>>> I agree... to some extent

Therese- Thank You for sharing!

Agreed Diva, you can add men to that its not just women you know :-)

Jake- I come from a male dominant society, so I still haven't see the scenario vice versa. fell free to share your stories :)

Of course understand that! I feel this relates to many people male/female/transgendered, gay or str8, from a religious group or atheist etc.....

LOVE u Dina. Thanks. This for all those who degrade a woman's dignity in society as well to an extent .... that words r inadequate to explain........n its for .. women who live in a dream world ....!!!

Well said. Well written. Remember, though, that perception is reality.

Very true Dina, and it applies to both men and women...I will share this with my friends because I DO believe that we all have to be true to our hearts and live everyday as we choose, please and deserve. We feel love, we inspire love, we give love and we also receive it! we just have to open our eyes and hearts to see it and let it flow :) SMILE and you'll see...

Thank You mariyam, Sharon, Mireya for your feedback and contributions.

Fear of being alone can be strong but sometimes you can feel more alone with someone who is not right for you than being single. People stay with those who don't appreciate them because they don't appreciate themselves first. It can be hard to admit but its true.


Jake - well said - we deserve the best and can use the time of being single to be the best we can be!


I remember Lisa Nichols was talking about falling in love with ourselves and accepting what we cant change - she really made me think. I look at her radiating all the beauty and warmth and its what loving ourselves is about. The key is to see happiness in all different things in our life - not just our partner - it is an important aspect of life we long for but not just one.

wow, Dheena, u've said it all, the twists and turns in this particular issue are bewildering, maybe that's why some people misunderstood you, but.... SALUTE, dear friend, nothing to add to this beautifully explained situation, yet nothing is beautiful about the situation itself, it's sad and very true