58. Belong  

Posted by Dr. Dheena Sadik in , ,



As I was cleaning my room this evening, I discovered an old article I had written dated 21st-December-2006. Since most of you are acquainted with me today I thought it would be interesting to post the original...


Why do some people have a tendency to cluster themselves? Do we have to belong to some type of category by nature, behavior, outlook or limitation? Can't we simply be individuals whose life belong to themselves? Why do some people expect us to mold and play the rhythm and tunes of harps they have set in motion? Are we living on an invisible stage of pretense? Trying to be accepted by someone, are we losing our individuality? That unique spark of illumination lit by that flame within us? That special combination of your name and outlook that makes you- YOU.

Honestly I'm bewildered. Don't want to lose myself. Nearly 2 decades of my life's odyssey has passed by. Would I simply give it all up to be "accepted" by the "crowd" of those who may not reach as far as I would by myself alone? No! Its not worth doing this anymore. Honestly I'm not even going to try to put up with all the extra effort and perspiration to "fit in". I only got a couple of years before this phase would close up. Its more feasible to be enthusiastic about the future which is warming up.

Life is amazing! It takes us through a variety of channels, tunnels and caves. When its the end of one phase of life, should we feel awful its over? Or simply feel enthusiastic wondering what is life bringing next along this voyage? Its strange how we begin to cherish and get in the groove of certain segments only when its time to say goodbye.

We should be appreciative of everything at hand. After all nearly every situation anytime could have been worse, more uncomfortable, more boring and all-in-all could never have encountered us. I'd rather go through an unpredictable tunnel with it own mysterious silence and unexpected imagination than take a shortcut to the illumination that awaits me at the end of that journey. Life's way too short and segmented into various phases to keep pondering whether or not we should experience those moments adorned with arms wide open eager to be embraced. Very often, whilst we decide, these walk right pass us only leaving behind vacuums within us wondering "what if" I'd done that or gone there, regretting if ONLY I had grabbed that opportunity when it was knocking my heart to be held by my molars....


I'm relieved to be here as I recall the struggles and challenges through med school. As you see, it wasn't a bed of dew drop garnished rose petals. I hope you are striving for those elements your heart desires. Regardless what they may be, if you dream it, I bet you can achieve it!

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12 comments

spot-on in ways and not so right in others, i'm with you regarding individuality in terms of achievement and self-exploring and not drag myself backwards while life is too short already and regret while chances pass by is just an awful feeling... indeed, life is amazing and needs exploring and we've already wasted so much time struggling and wondering... and nobody, absolutely nobody, should waste their energies trying to FIT IN, that is long gone, people either accept you for who you are or they don't!! we just be ourselves and that attracts many and repulses others but that's life, people won't like you all the way or hate you all the way, everyone has friends and ennemies, allies and opposers, if we try to please everyone, we'll end up losing our identity and we'll be described as frauds for we change as a camelion to suit ppl's diverse opinions and interests, and the mask will fall off our faces eventually and we'll find ourselves alone... the thing i don't agree on is the fact that we don't have to belong, i find it a beautiful thing when i say i belong to Egypt, my country, my people, my family, my land, most importantly, my religion, Islam, how proud i am, although we're facing so much opposition but i'm happy to be into these marvellous groups, i'm happy to be with certain intellectual friends and it's such a bless when i realize that we push each other to think, we motivate each other, we make each other laugh and we stand by each other in times of agony and pain, yes.... life is beautiful and lots of pathways are worth exploring but... trust me when i say this... even if u accomplish all you've ever dreamed of, u'll b standing there at the end of the line, a lonely old lady whose life is full of accomplishments, enriched with discoveries, wealthy and healthy, everybody envies you, and yet you'll feel so alone, choose your companions carefully, don't walk the walk alone, all the treasures in the world won't fill the void that loneliness leaves in our heart and soul, people who try to frame and shape u aren't really true companions, they want something hand-made, they can go and manufacture that!! in the meantime, don't ever end up alone and don't lose yourself into the maze of acceptance either

August 5, 2009 at 6:33 AM
Chester M Delameter  

I never did like trying to fit in the BOX!!!

August 6, 2009 at 1:39 AM
Tony Miller  

Seems like psychiatry is the box manufacturer and according to today's headlines they are pushing drugs to fit anyone into their box, like it or not.

August 6, 2009 at 1:40 AM
Gail Mowry  

I am going to print this and read it often! This is VERY GOOD!

August 6, 2009 at 1:42 AM
Henri Coleman  

Beautiful post, hope today was dew drop garnished rose petals...;)

August 6, 2009 at 1:42 AM
Manoj Chhabria  

Thanks Deena..Thumps Up! :)

August 6, 2009 at 1:43 AM
Vonnie McCallum  

Dheena, you are the beautiful spirit you wanted to become and already were at that time. You are an amazing woman. Keep up the great works!

August 6, 2009 at 1:43 AM
Therese Lepage- Lachapelle  

High level of AWARENESS at such a YOUNG age!!! It almost makes me believe in reincarnation ... You are an "OLD" soul as some say, a beacon for everyone!!!

August 6, 2009 at 1:44 AM
Hesham Hassan  

Sounds like the cocoon stage Miss Butterfly:) It's been said True wisdom and enlightenment is a second at the end of the road, when the veil made by the mechanics of perception is finally removed, and your tool is the path of this road.

August 6, 2009 at 1:44 AM
Andi Brown  

I think you've sussed the happiness thing Dheena..walk your own path and choose the flowers you like x

August 6, 2009 at 1:45 AM
Tina L. Taylor  

very nice and well spoken.

August 6, 2009 at 1:45 AM
Anthony Clatts  

Man and I was just thinking earlier how this was sort of supposed to be the best time of my life, but it really isn't. I thought I just need to make the future happen instead of this feeling right now. Intimate post.

August 6, 2009 at 7:08 PM

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